Since childhood, I’ve lived with an invisible burden—the need for validation. Every decision, every action, seemed incomplete unless someone approved of it. I was raised in a family and society where every adult acted like a teacher, constantly correcting, advising, and often, unintentionally, sending the message that I wasn’t capable of doing things right on my own. Over time, I became a product of this environment—constantly doubting myself, craving validation to feel confident or justified.
As I grew older, I noticed how this habit was not mine alone—it was a cultural pattern. Children are shaped to believe that someone else knows better, someone else decides what's good, acceptable, or successful. This creates adults who are hesitant to trust themselves. We become followers, not thinkers. We fear being different, because being different means breaking the rules of what’s “decent” or “normal.”
But then, I came across the words, “App Deepo Bhav”—be a lamp unto yourself. It struck me deeply. I realized how far I had drifted from my own light. True confidence doesn't come from praise—it comes from autonomy. Life is a do-it-yourself project, not a performance judged by others. The more I embraced this truth, the more I began to find my own voice, my own way. It is not easy, but it is liberating.
Now, I try to live as a creator, not a copy. Seeking truth, not approval. And in doing so, I slowly become a lamp—not just for myself, but maybe, someday, for others too.
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